Crossing Boundaries.

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I have always pride myself on setting boundaries and by the grace of God was able to maintain them.

mitch: It's really over.

mitch: It's really over.: I realize that my previous blog may appeared to be some what bias, considering it's focus is an men only. Allowed me to inter...

mitch: I love you, but I dont like you...

mitch: I love you, but I dont like you...

I love you, but I dont like you...

My close  friend and I are having on ongoing dispute about the possibility of loving someone and at the same time not liking that person.

• My view is that you can, of which he strongly oppose, needless to say we where at it from 12:am  until minutes to 6  and still have not been able to resolve the issue. 

  Let me explain my reason for standing so strongly behind my view.

  • About eight years ago I had the privilege of meeting and forming relation with some individuals , at first all seems well until  I  got  closer to them  then  I realize  I didn't care much for what  I thought  at the  time  was  there  ways.

    Now  as time  went on I got to understand that this was their  character  not  their  ways,  for  example I  believe a  person  ways are mostly  bad  habits that are practice, and ones character defines  who you are as on individual.   

    •   So the closer I got to these  individuals the more I realize  that their characters leaves nothing  to  be  desired, the  way they treat  people their arrogance, self absorbances and the list goes on, I also  realize that I would never  want  to be like  them.

 As a christian  who  believe in  loving all  people,  which  I do, but  after  my  experience  with these individual and more  like  them I   took  the  stand  that  I  will indeed  love  all people  but  only  like  some

.Now  my friend  think  that is  just  crazy, how he said  can  you  not like  someone     but love that person? Simple I respond, as  a christian we know that  love is  base on principle, to be kind, to  be patient , to be humble. to be truthful , to be caring and hopeful in all things, the thyme of the  gospel of  Christ is  love, therefore I must love, but not like the bad character  of  that  person,  if  I should  embrace  someone who  have  a  bad  character  I would  be telling that person  that been  bad  is good, and would lose any chance of  helping  he or she to change, so because  I don't  like  their character I  don't embrace it.

My argument  is this  since  your  character  defines  who  you  are and  I  don't  like  your  bad  character isn't it  a  fact  that I don't  like  you?  And since  it  is  my desire  to see  you  change  because I believe  you can, and  don't  want  to  see  you  self destruct, doesn't that means that I love you?

Still confuse?  Lets put it this  way God loved  us but He  don't  like  the sin  we  commit, right?  Now God  set  out  to  change  us, what does  He work on? Isn't it our character?

I love the person but  I  don't  like  his or her character .

 Like however unlike love is base on feelings,  the  things  that  you  do  make  me feel good,  but   the  moment  I you are  not doing  the  things  that I  like, I won't be liking you anymore   and  want  to  be as  far  away  from you  as possible, it;s  like  a  marriage  where  the  wife  or  husband  change  and  there are constance  fighting, they have to  separate, they do  that  not  because  they  like  the  behavior of each other, no! they do because they don't like it, but I am sure  that they love each other.

Say[ God  forbid} one of  my  daughters decided to hang with the wrong crowed  and  eventually becomes  a  criminal,  do  you  think  I could  hate my  child? NO!  but I would dislike her criminality.

I will end on the note on which I commence, so I don't exhaust my point henceforth rendering it redundant .

I would love to hear  your views on this topic.

It's really over.

I realize that my previous blog may appeared  to  be  some  what  bias, considering  it's  focus  is  an men  only.   Allowed  me  to  interject,  before  you dubbed  me a man hater, let  me  point  out  a few things.

It's really over.

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So after one year of laughter and fun it's now over, he has move on a week after the breakup, and I am here moping..
 Why does it seems so easy for a guy to get over  breakups ? Is it that they mask their pain in their masculinity by pretending that they have move on when they are really just trying to drowned their sorrows in the depth of some unsuspecting female's desires?
 By trying to use the body of another to block out the memories of the time share with their ex? Intoxicating themselves in the unsatisfying and temporal sexual pleasure of the one that is there..yet cannot be connected because they have not taken the time to disconnected from their ex..instead they behave like an overactive two year old playing with a toy and when it got broken just leave it and move on to the next one, hence forth breaking everything they touch..
.When are they going to realize that women are not toys that can be glued together when it is broken.
.Women are like pearls rear  and irreplaceable, like crystal alluring but delicate, when shattered it takes a lifetime to put it back to it's original form..
.Now my reason for this blog, a young lady came to me because her relationship with her man for one year is over and she is heartbroken because he has moved on, now she want to know what should she do..
.If you read this blog please send your advice.. thanks...hope to hear from you.